Category: life after the apocalypse

I want to thank everyone who sent condolences on Steve’s passing, and also everyone who sent donations in lieu of flowers.  I can’t possibly thank you all individually, but know that I’m grateful.

On the Theme of not being able to answer every question individually, I’m going to answer a bunch of them here, and then post links to this post everywhere.  I think this should catch most people.

So!  The first question —  Will I be continuing the Liaden series?
Yes, it is my intention to continue writing in the Liaden Universe®, at least to the point of finishing out the remaining three books contracted with Baen.  There will be some changes in how things go forward, which are inevitable, given Circumstances.  Trade Lanes is off the table, at least for now.  It is possible that it will never be written, but — I’m new at this, so let’s just not say “never” and instead say “we’ll see.”

I’m about 1/3 of the way through the book following Ribbon Dance, and have Extensive Notes for the book after that.  The sequel is due at Baen in September.  The deadline may have to be renegotiated; I don’t know that yet — see “new at this,” above — and I’ll have to talk with Madames the Agent and the Publisher.

Question the Second:  How am I doing?
I have no idea.  I have moments of relative peace — work is going to be a refuge, I can already see that — moments of immobilizing terror, and breathtaking pain.  I’m assuming these things are standard, but I’ve never lost my best friend, spouse, and creative partner before.

The cats have been a comfort, piling on whenever I land in a place and stay still long enough.

Local friends have also been keeping an eye on me, to the extent that I allow it; it’s hard to ask for help, and I’m not Steve, who loved people and made connections the way the rest of us breathe.  I’m a more … private person, a fact that it will do us all good to remember, going forward.  If I’m testy, sarcastic, or clueless — recall that I’ve always been that way, and that Steve always did the heavy interpersonal lifting.

Question the Third:  What am I doing?
Cleaning off Steve’s desk — he was a pile maker — in the hope that I’ll find all the account numbers and passwords and whatnot that I’ll need in order to do all the Stuff that attends a death, starting — well.  Tomorrow.  I did do this once, a couple years ago, long distance, when my father died.  At least this time, I know the broad outline of the Things To Be dealt with.

Referencing work as a refuge, I’ll be — today or tomorrow — converting my reading nook to a dedicated writing space, since my desktop is bearing the weight of the Stuff-coping.  A quiet space and a quiet computer will help me think.

Other than that, I’m trying to breathe, and not succumb to the Black Dog.  As a friend who knows me well wrote in her condolence card, “Be Strong.  The cats need you.”

Question the Fourth:  How can I help?
By being patient, of course, and realizing that this is a House in mourning, therefore instant answers will not be available.

Kind people have been sending gift cards, which I greatly appreciate, and which, I suspect, will come in extremely handy while the Accountant’s Guild clarifies my financial situation, going forward.

If you would like to donate a gift card  “in lieu of flowers” as many people have said, an Amazon gift card to rolanniATgmailDOTcom will be greatly appreciated, as will Hannaford gift cards, or Petco gift cards.

If you prefer to donate cash online, there’s the Patreon page, PayPalME, or you may buy me a Ko-Fi (which is PayPal by another process).

If you want to send a card, the best address is:
Sharon Lee
PO Box 1586
Waterville ME 04903

. . . I think that’s the full list of repeating queries.  Again, thank you all for your support and your love, down so very many years.  Group hug.

Here’s a picture of the reading-soon-to-be writing nook.  Coon cat provided for scale:

For those who missed the news, Steve died, very suddenly, last night.  He had gone down to the basement where we’re accustomed to walk every day for a figure-8 mile or two, which was our Plan for Keeping Fit through the Maine winters.  He was, he said, going to finish up his daily laps.  I told him, as I often did, to “have a good walk!”  and he answered, cheerfully, as he often did, “I will have a good walk!”

Finishing up the laps should have taken about a half-hour, but I was writing and not keeping track of time, so it was close onto an hour when it occurred to me that I hadn’t heard him come upstairs, announcing to the house that he had achieved both heart-points and steps!

I walked back to his office, thinking he might’ve slipped past me, but he wasn’t there.  I went downstairs.

Steve was face down on the floor, and he wasn’t breathing.  I called 911, the operator walked me through getting him turned over and starting CPR, which I kept up until a policeman arrived, closely followed by EMTs, firefighters, and life-saving persons of all orders.  They labored for . . . I’m not quite sure, really.  A Long Time.  In the end, having hit him with everything they had, they just couldn’t get his heart to beat on its own.

After the EMTs left, I waited, in the company of the policeman and the City of Waterville’s chaplin.  I called my brother-in-law in Maryland to tell him the news, and asked him to call the rest of Steve’s family.  The policeman called Steve’s cardiologist, and got his agreement to sign off on the death certificate, which meant we didn’t have to wait another Long Time for the medical examiner.  After a slightly Less Long Time, the funeral people came and took Steve away.

And here we are.

I was “with” Steve Miller for 47 years, many years past half of my lifetime.  During our time together, he saved my life several times, taught me to write, provided me with adventures — some, to be sure, inadvertent — with cats, with enthusiasm, and courage.  He was proud of me; he liked taking care of me; and from the first he was unabashed and generous in his love.  He was an original thinker, and bouncing ideas around with him — whether we were trying to figure out dinner or the plot of the next novel — was a rare intoxication.

If I said he was a perfect angel, no one will be believe that — least of all me.  What he was, was a good person, who tried his best to be kind, who genuinely liked people, and had the gift of making lasting connections.

I want to go back to what I said up there, about Steve liking to “take care” of me.  The walking course in the basement?  Steve created that when I was recovering from cancer, and was gritting my teeth and pushing myself to walk in circles around the main floor of the house, trying to get my strength back.  The basement was cool and sheltered; I could sit down if my strength suddenly ran out — and he could keep an eye on me.  Ahem.  It was only one of the many gifts of, “Let me make this easier for you” that he gave me — and us — during our time together.

And yesterday’s event, as much as I wish it had never happened, was, in its way, one last gift of ease, if not comfort.  Steve had seen both of his parents go into  slow declines, ending in hospice care, and he had a horror of being in a similar situation.

As far as I can understand it, yesterday’s event was one quick bolt out of the blue after a perfectly usual day of writing, correspondence, plans for bringing a new cat into the house, and more plans of what he wanted to do — tomorrow.

I am not at all happy to have lost him, but I am happy that he was spared the decline he feared.

One more note:  People have been asking me How I’m Doing.  I’m trying to understand what happened.  I’m trying to gather up various paperworks, as one must. I have the passwords to both his computers, so that makes doing needed tasks much easier — again.  I’ve been sticking pretty close to my desk in my office, because that’s . . . usual.  Our days were Steve at his desk, me at mine, a chat-window open in the margin for random observation, news of interest, cat reports, and questions about what might be for supper.  So, sitting here at my desk is . . . a breathing space, when I can forget for a few minutes that he’s not sitting at his.

The chat-window, though, is dark.

Thanks to everyone who sent — who are sending! — condolences.  I can’t possible answer all of you individually.  Your love and support means a lot.